Why does mansplaining even exist?

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Recently, the word “mansplaining” has entered my head to a degree where most of my thoughts revolve around it. According to a dictionary: Mansplaining is to explain something to another person (typically a woman, but everyone can be submitted to mansplaining) in a condescending or patronising manner. In layman’s terms it’s basically a person explaining something to you that you already have ample knowledge of as if you were completely oblivious.

Now this behaviour obviously gets on the nerves of many. It gets on my nerves and the reason behind that is because I sometimes mansplain things. Albeit very rarely now- I, like many others, slip up too. Just like with all my posts, I’m writing this to remind myself how to be a better person. We all find it annoying when someone talks to us like we haven’t a clue of what we’re doing. What could possibly be the reason behind a person explaining someone to somebody in a condescending and patronizing manner? The answer seems obvious. Insecurity. The need to know better than others. That was one of my biggest insecurities. Days could be completely ruined if I gave out a wrong answer in class or if somebody actually knew better than me. My ego would be hurt (good on him!) and I would end up feeling like an idiot because I didn’t know something. Reality check though, there is so much that we don’t know and that’s a great thing. It leaves more opportunity to experience and learn.

Women are unfortunately a big target of this kind of behaviour and I just can’t wrap my head around why that is. Many of us have somehow painted this image in our heads that a woman can’t possibly be more knowledgeable about certain topics than a man could ever be. How in the world could we actually think that? If you honestly read it and think about it- it sounds incredibly silly don’t you think? How many of us have witnessed some blunder-head try and explain a topic he/she has no knowledge about to a pretty young woman who has a bachelor’s, masters or even a Ph.D in? I’ve seen it a countless amount of times. The patronising tone, and condescending behaviour. I just honestly can’t understand it. The worst is when the person submitted to the mansplaining announces his/her knowledge and the mansplainer answers with doubt or a sarcastic, “Sure you do”. I know it boils my blood.

How is it thought that I have not been told to stop mansplaining things? From my honest experience, no woman has ever told me that they felt like I was being patronising towards them, and if I have, then I just want to take the opportunity to apologise now.

Back on topic though. There is another thought that has lingered in my conscious for the past few years and a rule of mine that has been there for my whole life. The thought being, “We can learn from everyone” and the rule being “We are all the same”. When we talk to a person, we should exercise the ability to talk to them as if they have the same capacity for knowledge as we do. The person opposite you might be a dimwit in your eyes, solely because of his/her appearance, but how are we so certain that he/she doesn’t have a vast knowledge of the latest studies in the sociological aspect of the sciences? How can we be absolutely sure that the new guy at work doesn’t have experience in the field of expertise required for said job? The only way to be certain is to ask. There are obviously nuances between people, some may answer honestly and others will lie due to insecurity. The insecurity comes  more often than not from the fear of being patronised. If we can get rid of that behaviour, then we can create a safer environment for people of all kinds to be able to teach and learn.

So do me this favour. We’ll do it together. The next time that we find the opportunity to explain something to someone. Let’s take a couple of things into account. Do we know this person’s current knowledge of the topic? Do we know this person’s capacity for learning and understanding? Are we capable of swallowing our ego and listening if said person actually has more knowledge than us in said field, and therefore use the opportunity to learn regardless of the other person’s appearance? If we’re capable of all of the above then we can almost totally eradicate the term “mansplaining” and all the insecurity that comes with it, replacing it with compassion and knowledge for all.

Technology and Loneliness

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Loneliness is apparently an epidemic these days. I see it all the time on the net. People are getting lonely more often than they did many years ago. I have a reason for that.

We all love technology. Smartphones, laptops, gadgets and gizmos that make our lives easier. The feeling of unboxing a new toy is always a joyous one, at least for me. It’s how we choose to spend our time with these toys that causes our loneliness. It’s not so long ago that I sat in a room with four other people and there was absolutely no communication between any of us other than the occasional word or a bit of eye contact. They all sat on their phones snickering at whatever was popping up on their feeds. The truth about these guys is that they’re all very fun personalities and I do enjoy their company when they look up from their phones and talk, and it’s not just them. It seems to be the case for many people, myself included, that we consider electronic communication to be more valuable than in-person dialogues. We’d rather chat with and get to know someone over social media than actually going out and putting effort into meeting someone. We stay home locked up with our gadgets.

This evolution in communication is causing a feeling of loneliness in the world and it comes as no surprise to me. It’s amazing to think that we can sit in a room crowded with people and still feel lonely. So what we do to prevent that feeling is staying as active as possible on social media, getting message notifications and talking to people through text so we don’t feel as lonely anymore. Still, though, that lonely feeling lingers with us because we have no voice to hear. No smile to admire. No emotion behind words and no passion to share. We are communicative by nature and we’re slowly losing touch with a small bit of our humanity because of that. I’m not anti-technology and, as a matter of fact, I’m very active on social media. It just bothers me that when I sit down for lunch at work or go to get coffee somewhere; people seem to be more interested in what’s going on in their little screen than chatting with a person that has seemingly materialised in front of them. “Oh, sorry I wasn’t listening. I didn’t see you there.” is a sentence I’ve heard very often, and as loud as I am that comes often as a surprise.

Let’s try something together. Next time we’re feeling lonely in a public setting. Let’s try putting away our phones and talking to the people around us if they seem open to it. It takes courage to talk to a stranger, I know, but sometimes those can be some of the most meaningful conversations we have, and if we don’t have the courage to do so then we can always try again later. Let’s put down our phones so we can admire the fact that we are surrounded by so many beautiful people with amazing experiences to share. We can choose whether or not we’re lonely, but that’s a topic for next time.

Time to get back up!

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We all fall down at some point in our lives. Whether we fall down on the way to the kitchen or we have a mental breakdown; we all fall. It hurts. It can hurt so badly that we actually lay down in pain for a while. We can be so hurt that we can’t eat, sleep, or even hold a decent conversation with our loved ones, but we almost always have the choice of getting back up. When you are down you can only move forward by getting back up, and that is the first step we can take to becoming better versions of ourselves.

Getting up can be such a daunting task when we’ve fallen badly. The mere thought of expending anymore energy can be draining in itself. If we need help then we need to call and ask for help. Sometimes it’s just that hard to get up on your own. If we need help getting up then we should always ask for it without hesitating. There is no shame in calling for help when you truly need it.

So now that we’ve gotten up what comes next? We’ve accomplished one small goal and we can be proud of ourselves, but it’s not over yet. We are now faced with a decision between two directions. We can choose to go backwards. We can go back to what we know and what we find comforting. It’s so easy to just go back to where we were and do what we’ve known for our whole lives, but in doing so we sabotage ourselves. How so? Einstein said once that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again whilst expecting a different result. If we go backwards and continue doing what caused us to fall, we will fall again, and it won’t get any easier. That’s insane.

Our second option is to move forward into the unknown. There are many obstacles on the path forward, and there are even new problems to deal with. We will most definitely fall again on the way forward, but I can promise we will fall a lot less with a lot less pain. The reasoning behind this is due to the fact that in moving forward and experiencing new things, changing the way we think and challenging ourselves teaches us new skills. This knowledge assists us on spotting how we fell the last time and help us overcome the obstacle on our path towards spiritual growth.

So the next time that we fall down let us give thanks. Let’s be thankful for the fact that we fell. Let us recognise this fall as opportunity to learn about ourselves. Let’s be thankful for what this fall reminds us of. That we are human.

We don’t know what we’re doing, and that’s okay!

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Imagine that you’re playing a video game. You can’t remember the introduction and the tutorial was absolutely terrible. Now you’re in the middle of the game and you still haven’t a clue of what you’re actually doing or what the main objective of the game is.  You try your best though and manage to complete a few other objectives that give the game some meaning. As you go along you get better at playing the game, but you still have no idea what you’re doing. That’s life.

Look, we were all born without instruction manuals. We’re doing our absolute best to play the game of life and succeed, but we don’t really know what we’re doing. That’s absolutely fine. There is no ultimate rule stating that we should all know how to function and behave perfectly during our existence here on the earth. We can only do our best. So if someone or something is trying to shoot you down just remember. You’re doing the best you can and sometimes your best just isn’t better than what you have to offer at the current moment, and if that isn’t enough, we can remind ourselves that the people surrounding us are in the same boat as us. Everyone has their insecurities just like you and me. Don’t ever let those insecurities or feelings of uncertainty deter you from trying your hardest.

So now we know that nobody has a clue what’s going on. Especially me. I’ve completely accepted the fact that I just really don’t know what I’m doing at all, but I’m learning on the way. Sure I’ll make mistakes here and there. Hurt myself and others in the process, but I can’t let that frighten me from moving forward. The fact that we actually don’t know what we’re doing is something that should excite us. We have all this opportunity to learn new things through trial and error. All the experiences that we have are an important part in what helps us become the best version of ourselves. For that I am grateful. Do not let the fear of the unknown stop you from doing your best, because in the end, you’ll be thankful for at least having that experience in your memories.

Honesty

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Don’t worry. That picture of me is not staring at you judgingly. I used it in a previous blog post. This is a picture of me at one of my most vulnerable moments. I thought it would be fitting to the topic I’m about to discuss. Honesty.

Why do we go through the hassle of being untruthful towards each other? Sometimes I feel as if honesty has become disvalued in modern society and that hurts. Some of us, and even me sometimes, are thinking, “Sometimes it’s just more comfortable to tell/receive a little white lie than the painful truth”. I can humour that. Of course we don’t want to hurt others, but sometimes we just have to take into account that another persons experience of the truth is not our responsibility. In the long run, being honest with each other will help both parties mature.

Think about it for a moment. Say that we have a musician up on stage and the performance is terrible. Your honest opinion is that his showmanship and musicianship could use more work. It feels a bit half assed. Now say that the musician walks up to you after the show and asks for your honest opinion. He seems like a nice enough person, but fragile. After all, a musicians work is something he holds close to him right? The answer is more often than not a yes. We can’t possibly discourage him from continuing to enjoy his craft so we lie. We tell him that we thought the gig was amazing and he’s a great performer even though we really didn’t think so. The musician continues to perform poorly until someone finally walks up to him and tells him the truth. When he hears the truth he’s broken for a while. Unfortunately, there’s nothing that the truth bearer can do about that. The way that one takes the truth is not the responsibility of whom tells it. It’s our choice if we take the truth personally. It never is though. Fast forward a year or two later. The musician has worked hard on his performance and is now more than capable of blowing an audience’s mind. Why? He finally heard the truth which lead to growth as a musician. The truth offers you two things. Denial or an incentive to move forward. We know that if we’re not moving forward, then we’re either jogging in place or moving  backwards.

Now what about more personal issues? The only thing that changes is the information being relayed. That and the situation the truth bearer can put himself in. I completely understand that sometimes people can become violent due to hearing the truth, and I’m not encouraging people to put themselves in danger. Before we decide to tell someone a harsh truth we need to take into account what situation we will be putting ourselves into. In those cases its better to not put ourselves in danger and say nothing rather than to lie.

We need to choose our words wisely though. A harsh truth is one thing, but turning it into something venomous defeats the point of everything gained by hearing the truth. Some people are blunt, but that does not mean we should go around waving our honesty bat, beating everyone up and any given chance. Some of us might think, “Well, it’s not my problem how said person reacts to the truth, it’s theirs”. This is true. When the person decides to attack us orally or even physically then it becomes our problem. We should not be using honesty to inflict pain on others.

Instead, we can think of honesty as giving someone a gift. We want to give people gifts that are well thought out. Designed specifically for them. When we give a gift without having put any thought into it, the receiver thanks you for it, but usually disregards the gift. Sometimes they even throw it away. Giving a well thought out gift, however, calls forth gratitude in the mind of receiver. They are thankful for the gift we put effort in choosing just for them. Often, people will carry these gifts with them for a long period of time- if not for their whole life.

Here’s the thing though. The most important person to be honest with is yourself. We can all give ourselves a beautiful and well thought out gift. We need to practice being honest with ourselves. If you’re not okay then own it. Accept that it’s okay to not feel okay because if we lie to ourselves about our well being- we will never be able to move past those feelings of not being okay. The most common lie anyone tells is when they’re asked, “How are you?”. We always answer, “i’m fine thanks!”. Even when our lives seem to be spinning out of control. Try answering this question honestly from now on. From my own personal experience I can say that it’s helped me achieve more happiness than anything else. Do not lie to yourself or about yourself. Just like when we told our musician friend the truth and he moved forward and matured. When we are completely honest to ourselves then we start to mature. We become a better version of ourselves and that means we are better equipped to spreading joy and positivity to those around us.  We’re not saints and we will slip up. We’re all human, and that’s okay. Honestly.

Overthinking? Get into the now!

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We are conscious beings. We have the ability to think. Isn’t that wonderful? We can use our imagination to conjure up scenes of beauty right in front of us. We can process words, symbols, numbers, emotions, and many other experiences in day to day life. We think to solve problems and we think for leisure. We think all day and every day. Sometimes we think a little too much.

We have all experienced over-thinking  at some point in our lives. It’s completely normal, but usually an uncomfortable experience. When our imagination decides to run wild we can sometimes lose track of that beautiful scenery that we were imagining and end up thinking about worst case scenarios. Everything can be over-thought about. Be it relationships with other people, cooking dinner for the night or what might happen at work tomorrow we can always get caught up over thinking the possibilities. So how do we overcome this?

Let’s do this together. We can start by not making assumptions. Don Miguel Ruiz wrote about this in his book “The Four Agreements”. When we draw assumptions we’re just putting ourselves into a situation that has not yet happened. Therefore, we have no clue how the outcome will be. We have no idea what is going to happen a year, month, day, hour, minute or even a second in the future. We have no clue how a person will react to what you say. So why should we bother spending our energy in making assumptions? Ask questions instead. Ask as many until you have the information you need. An educated guess is better than an uneducated one.

Let’s go back to the topic of putting ourselves into the future. This causes anxiety. We can very easily imagine future scenes and that can cause more harm than good. When we imagine ourselves in a certain situation we relive it. Just like people with PTSD we can actually feel the situation. If you tried hard enough to imagine a taste you will eventually taste it. Our body remembers experiences and if you puzzle a future experience together with knowledge of past situations then you will definitely feel that scenario mentally and physically. I’m not saying that we should not completely forget about the future. Planning ahead of time is a great thing to do, but to expect everything to go according to plan is unrealistic. Things can go any which way at any time. Resting your well-being on future events will only create anxiety.

Let’s just admit to ourselves that when it comes to future events, we know absolutely nothing. Not knowing something is fine. Let’s also just learn to accept that what happened in the past is done with. We can’t go back and change anything. So it seems like we only have one place left to go. The present. If we focus on the present we’ll be just fine.

Practicing being in the now is our all mighty tool to slay over-thinking. We can meditate or do yoga. For those of us who do not want to dedicate time to longer practices have no fear. When we feel like we’re thinking too much about a certain topic we can do simple exercises to get us back on track. Like everything, they take some practice, but we’ll get it eventually. Let’s just stop for a second and put everything down. Don’t close your eyes this time. Just take a deep breath in and look around. Where are you? What are you doing? What can you smell? Can you feel the wind on your skin? What about the surrounding sounds? What’s going on right here, right now? Answer all of these questions. If you can think of anymore questions relating to your environment then answer them too. Remind yourself of the present moment and just take it in. It may not work the first time, but we won’t give up easy. We can keep on practicing it and eventually we’ll stop using so much energy on things that don’t matter and start putting it into what really matters. What’s happening right now.

Insecure?

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Quirks and character qualities are things that everyone has. Some of them we are very comfortable with. We may be proud of certain bodily features we have. We may be very happy with how our personality is. With that comes security. We can be very secure with how we feel about ourselves. Sometimes though, we look at ourselves and judge. That’s where our insecurities come into the spotlight. Everyone at some point in their lives gets insecure. Be it that we are insecure about our bone structure or how people perceive us, we all experience some form of insecurity.

Insecurity is defined by the fact that we sometimes are just not confident in ourselves. We can get anxious about who we are and that is completely normal. Sometimes our head is just not in the game and we start second guessing ourselves. It happens to everyone so we shouldn’t beat ourselves up when we’ve come to realise that we’re feeling a little bit insecure.

So what can we do when we’re feeling insecure? We can start off by taking a look at the way we talk to ourselves. When we see ourselves in the mirror what do we say? I’m not going to give any attention to anything negative anyone might say to themselves. Instead I’m going to say that we should always be saying, “Wow, I look beautiful today!”. We need to keep telling ourselves that everyday because it’s true. We are all beautiful as cliché as it sounds. The only compliments in the world that matter are the ones that we give to ourselves. How can we compliment others if we can’t give ourselves a pat on the back every now and then?

What about our body language? How are we carrying ourselves? Body language seems over-looked today. Strike a power pose if you’re not feeling secure about yourself. Just a forced smile produces the same endorphins that cause us to feel happy, a power pose helps us feel more confident. So stand like superman and feel like him too! We don’t have to walk about like a superhero to feel confident though. Stand up straight and stick your chest out. Keep your shoulders behind your back and walk about knowing that we are all equal. We have to show ourselves respect if we intend to gain the respect of others. How can we respect a person that does not respect themselves? Having proper posture is not just healthy for our body, but also healthy for our mind. In various indian philosophies they talk about kundalini energy. The kundalini can’t travel properly from our root to our crown without proper posture.

We are all human beings living on the same planet. We are all the same, but also different. We are all beautiful people with good things to contribute to this world. When we focus on all of the good things we can bring to one another our insecurities dwindle.  If our insecurities come from what other people think of us then we remind ourselves that we need only to change for ourselves. We need to be able to live and be ourselves without the need for validation and acceptance from others. When we accept ourselves for who we are, faults and all, then we become truly secure with ourselves. We should not let that stop us though from working on our faults. We can always strive to be a better person today than we were yesterday and that leads to growth. With our own spiritual growth we can encourage others to grow. We can help others get over their insecurities, and more often than not, we help ourselves in the process. Let us speak positively to ourselves because we are worth it. We will always be good enough and when we’re not feeling good enough then we go back and remind ourselves why we are good enough. Meditate on the good. We don’t need to suffer by our own hand. So do me this favour. Take care of yourself unselfishly. Speak kindly to yourself. By doing that we can achieve the ultimate goal of loving one another and that is a world that sounds beautiful to me.

Insecure?

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Quirks and character qualities are things that everyone has. Some of them we are very comfortable with. We may be proud of certain bodily features we have. We may be very happy with how our personality is. With that comes security. We can be very secure with how we feel about ourselves. Sometimes though, we look at ourselves and judge. That’s where our insecurities come into the spotlight. Everyone at some point in their lives gets insecure. Be it that we are insecure about our bone structure or how people perceive us, we all experience some form of insecurity.

Insecurity is defined by the fact that we sometimes are just not confident in ourselves. We can get anxious about who we are and that is completely normal. Sometimes our head is just not in the game and we start second guessing ourselves. It happens to everyone so we shouldn’t beat ourselves up when we’ve come to realise that we’re feeling a little bit insecure.

So what can we do when we’re feeling insecure? We can start off by taking a look at the way we talk to ourselves. When we see ourselves in the mirror what do we say? I’m not going to give any attention to anything negative anyone might say to themselves. Instead I’m going to say that we should always be saying, “Wow, I look beautiful today!”. We need to keep telling ourselves that everyday because it’s true. We are all beautiful as cliché as it sounds. The only compliments in the world that matter are the ones that we give to ourselves. How can we compliment others if we can’t give ourselves a pat on the back every now and then?

What about our body language? How are we carrying ourselves? Body language seems over-looked today. Strike a power pose if you’re not feeling secure about yourself. Just a forced smile produces the same endorphins that cause us to feel happy, a power pose helps us feel more confident. So stand like superman and feel like him too! We don’t have to walk about like a superhero to feel confident though. Stand up straight and stick your chest out. Keep your shoulders behind your back and walk about knowing that we are all equal. We have to show ourselves respect if we intend to gain the respect of others. How can we respect a person that does not respect themselves? Having proper posture is not just healthy for our body, but also healthy for our mind. In various indian philosophies they talk about kundalini energy. The kundalini can’t travel properly from our root to our crown without proper posture.

We are all human beings living on the same planet. We are all the same, but also different. We are all beautiful people with good things to contribute to this world. When we focus on all of the good things we can bring to one another our insecurities dwindle.  If our insecurities come from what other people think of us then we remind ourselves that we need only to change for ourselves. We need to be able to live and be ourselves without the need for validation and acceptance from others. When we accept ourselves for who we are, faults and all, then we become truly secure with ourselves. We should not let that stop us though from working on our faults. We can always strive to be a better person today than we were yesterday and that leads to growth. With our own spiritual growth we can encourage others to grow. We can help others get over their insecurities, and more often than not, we help ourselves in the process. Let us speak positively to ourselves because we are worth it. We will always be good enough and when we’re not feeling good enough then we go back and remind ourselves why we are good enough. Meditate on the good. We don’t need to suffer by our own hand. So do me this favour. Take care of yourself unselfishly. Speak kindly to yourself. By doing that we can achieve the ultimate goal of loving one another and that is a world that sounds beautiful to me.

Resistance

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When we train- we usually work the muscle by adding some form of resistance to the movement of choice. Resistance can be added through weight, another person pressing down on a bar or rubber bands to name a few. Resistance training causes your muscle to grow bigger and stronger. Keep in mind that we need to rest and use the right amount of resistance so we don’t end up hurting ourselves. When we injure ourselves through resistance training we can be out of the gym for a long time.

Now what if we take that theory and apply it to our emotions. If we’re feeling happy or joyful-we don’t often resist that feeling. Rather, we enjoy it and let the emotion flow through us freely. However, when we feel down or sad, we sometimes try to fight off that feeling-telling ourselves that we should not feel this way. Now apply the theory. When we resist an emotion it only becomes stronger. We’re only causing the emotion to be more predominant in our minds. Why would we want “negative” emotions to take the spotlight in our conscious? Why are we giving it so much attention? What I’m saying is that when we’re feeling any emotion-we should just let it be. Especially when it’s on the bluer side of life.

There is nothing wrong with feeling down. There is nothing wrong with being angry. We can all use that energy to fulfil a good purpose. One of my favourite quotes is, “Being spiritual doesn’t mean you  are always positive. Fuck out of my face while I balance these energies”. Again, we can use the resistance theory. If we train our chest, but never train our back-we will definitely grow a bigger chest. Our chest will start pulling our shoulders forward because our back is too weak to keep them where they should be. We create an imbalance in our body that can cause all sorts of problems and can be hard to undo. If we never resist positive emotions and resist negative ones the latter will become stronger causing an imbalance that can be a nightmare to undo. If we look even deeper into the theory we can compare an injury to a mental breakdown. We put too much weight on the bar and end up hurting ourselves. When we put so much energy into resisting a negative emotion we can end up mentally hurting ourselves even causing breakdown.

So what can we do? We can start by listening to our mind. If we can hear what’s going on up there then we should just listen. Let’s notice our current state of mind. If we are feeling over-whelmed then we should lie down and let ourselves experience these feelings. Violence solves few problems so why put up a fight? Another favourite quote of mine is, “Don’t worry, it will pass”. Whatever we feel at any moment in time will pass, and a new emotion will come and take it’s place. 

How do I go about listening to myself and noticing my emotions? My personal routine is to chant a mantra with my eyes closed. I imagine my “safe zone” and focus on the mantra. As I do this I notice my thoughts and emotions, but give them no energy. My energy is going into focusing on the mantra. When I wake up I experience my current state of mind fully. If said state of mind is negative then I’m aware of that and am fully able to not let that have an effect on those who surround me, and most importantly, those that are close to me.

So do me a favour. We’ll do it together. Next time we’re feeling down or negative. Let’s embrace those emotions and allow ourselves to feel that way. Experience what it means to be an emotional being in full. It’s beautiful to experience all different types of emotions, and for that we can be grateful. We need to realise that we are only human and sometimes we’re just not feeling okay. Give each other understanding-we’ll be just fine.

Here’s what I listen too when I’m feeling negative. Like I said in my post about Music and Emotion-listening to a song that matches your emotion will help it pass.

Motivaiton

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What gets you up in the morning? What makes you flare up with the drive to go through your day? What flame burns within you that throttles your existence into full blast? What’s your motivation? Is it that freshly brewed pot of coffee? What about that magnificent breakfast that’s on the table? That new person that came into your life seemingly out of the blue or is it your beautiful children? Be it any of the above or something else we all have sources of motivation to be thankful for, and those of us who can’t seem to find any reason to move forward can still actively seek out motivation and role models.

The importance of being motivated is a topic that we should all look at. What is motivation? It’s when we are filled with desire to do things. Motivation is what keeps us moving forward. We’ve all seen motivational quotes via various sources. The newspapers, internet, magazines and what have you. They tend to be wise quotes that are meant to inspire and motivate us in to accomplishing our goals. The thing is though, we don’t need to solely think that our motivation can come from such sources. We can even find motivation within ourselves. Just the fact that I am healthy motivates me to get through my day and those who are worse set; their motivation can come from seeking better health. Everyone lacks motivation at some point, and that’s perfectly normal. As human beings it’s normal for us to have highs and lows and we can’t forget that. Sometimes we’re just so down that we can’t seem to find reason to accomplish anything. In most cases a lack of motivation causes this. That’s why this tool that we have, motivation, can drive us to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. We need to actively seek motivation. Those who are motivated accomplish their goals and break barriers that have been holding them back.

So when we’re at a point where we’re lacking motivation and can’t seemingly find any reason to go out and do anything what should we do? How can we fix this? We can start by acknowledging our current mental state. How? As I always say, meditation. Listen to yourself. Go somewhere quiet and listen. Are you feeling like you have no energy to do anything and just want to loaf around all day? Sit down, close your eyes, and observe your thoughts. If you come to the conclusion that you’re lacking motivation then that should be motivation enough to go out and seek new forms of motivation.

Role models are a great form of motivation. Someone that you look up too. It doesn’t have to be someone famous. A role model can be your father, mother, friend, partner or just the man who performed a selfless act of kindness in front of you today.

Being tired of anything can give you drive to find motivation so you can make changes for the better. Realising that you have the power to change will motivate you. I had enough of being unhealthy and malnourished two years ago. When I finally realised that I had the power to change that I got motivated to do something about that. Today, I’m fit as a fiddle and due to those lifestyle changes I’ve created an endless source of motivation for self-betterment. You could say, getting healthy and moving fixed my lack of motivation for good.

We are all capable of finding and using motivation to be better than we were yesterday. I encourage you to seek motivation. You can accomplish your goals. You can find reason to start that project that you’ve been thinking about for the longest. The fact that you’re here experiencing life is the best starting point.

I believe in you all. Go out and keep doing beautiful things.