Time to get back up!

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We all fall down at some point in our lives. Whether we fall down on the way to the kitchen or we have a mental breakdown; we all fall. It hurts. It can hurt so badly that we actually lay down in pain for a while. We can be so hurt that we can’t eat, sleep, or even hold a decent conversation with our loved ones, but we almost always have the choice of getting back up. When you are down you can only move forward by getting back up, and that is the first step we can take to becoming better versions of ourselves.

Getting up can be such a daunting task when we’ve fallen badly. The mere thought of expending anymore energy can be draining in itself. If we need help then we need to call and ask for help. Sometimes it’s just that hard to get up on your own. If we need help getting up then we should always ask for it without hesitating. There is no shame in calling for help when you truly need it.

So now that we’ve gotten up what comes next? We’ve accomplished one small goal and we can be proud of ourselves, but it’s not over yet. We are now faced with a decision between two directions. We can choose to go backwards. We can go back to what we know and what we find comforting. It’s so easy to just go back to where we were and do what we’ve known for our whole lives, but in doing so we sabotage ourselves. How so? Einstein said once that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again whilst expecting a different result. If we go backwards and continue doing what caused us to fall, we will fall again, and it won’t get any easier. That’s insane.

Our second option is to move forward into the unknown. There are many obstacles on the path forward, and there are even new problems to deal with. We will most definitely fall again on the way forward, but I can promise we will fall a lot less with a lot less pain. The reasoning behind this is due to the fact that in moving forward and experiencing new things, changing the way we think and challenging ourselves teaches us new skills. This knowledge assists us on spotting how we fell the last time and help us overcome the obstacle on our path towards spiritual growth.

So the next time that we fall down let us give thanks. Let’s be thankful for the fact that we fell. Let us recognise this fall as opportunity to learn about ourselves. Let’s be thankful for what this fall reminds us of. That we are human.

We don’t know what we’re doing, and that’s okay!

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Imagine that you’re playing a video game. You can’t remember the introduction and the tutorial was absolutely terrible. Now you’re in the middle of the game and you still haven’t a clue of what you’re actually doing or what the main objective of the game is.  You try your best though and manage to complete a few other objectives that give the game some meaning. As you go along you get better at playing the game, but you still have no idea what you’re doing. That’s life.

Look, we were all born without instruction manuals. We’re doing our absolute best to play the game of life and succeed, but we don’t really know what we’re doing. That’s absolutely fine. There is no ultimate rule stating that we should all know how to function and behave perfectly during our existence here on the earth. We can only do our best. So if someone or something is trying to shoot you down just remember. You’re doing the best you can and sometimes your best just isn’t better than what you have to offer at the current moment, and if that isn’t enough, we can remind ourselves that the people surrounding us are in the same boat as us. Everyone has their insecurities just like you and me. Don’t ever let those insecurities or feelings of uncertainty deter you from trying your hardest.

So now we know that nobody has a clue what’s going on. Especially me. I’ve completely accepted the fact that I just really don’t know what I’m doing at all, but I’m learning on the way. Sure I’ll make mistakes here and there. Hurt myself and others in the process, but I can’t let that frighten me from moving forward. The fact that we actually don’t know what we’re doing is something that should excite us. We have all this opportunity to learn new things through trial and error. All the experiences that we have are an important part in what helps us become the best version of ourselves. For that I am grateful. Do not let the fear of the unknown stop you from doing your best, because in the end, you’ll be thankful for at least having that experience in your memories.