Resistance

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When we train- we usually work the muscle by adding some form of resistance to the movement of choice. Resistance can be added through weight, another person pressing down on a bar or rubber bands to name a few. Resistance training causes your muscle to grow bigger and stronger. Keep in mind that we need to rest and use the right amount of resistance so we don’t end up hurting ourselves. When we injure ourselves through resistance training we can be out of the gym for a long time.

Now what if we take that theory and apply it to our emotions. If we’re feeling happy or joyful-we don’t often resist that feeling. Rather, we enjoy it and let the emotion flow through us freely. However, when we feel down or sad, we sometimes try to fight off that feeling-telling ourselves that we should not feel this way. Now apply the theory. When we resist an emotion it only becomes stronger. We’re only causing the emotion to be more predominant in our minds. Why would we want “negative” emotions to take the spotlight in our conscious? Why are we giving it so much attention? What I’m saying is that when we’re feeling any emotion-we should just let it be. Especially when it’s on the bluer side of life.

There is nothing wrong with feeling down. There is nothing wrong with being angry. We can all use that energy to fulfil a good purpose. One of my favourite quotes is, “Being spiritual doesn’t mean you  are always positive. Fuck out of my face while I balance these energies”. Again, we can use the resistance theory. If we train our chest, but never train our back-we will definitely grow a bigger chest. Our chest will start pulling our shoulders forward because our back is too weak to keep them where they should be. We create an imbalance in our body that can cause all sorts of problems and can be hard to undo. If we never resist positive emotions and resist negative ones the latter will become stronger causing an imbalance that can be a nightmare to undo. If we look even deeper into the theory we can compare an injury to a mental breakdown. We put too much weight on the bar and end up hurting ourselves. When we put so much energy into resisting a negative emotion we can end up mentally hurting ourselves even causing breakdown.

So what can we do? We can start by listening to our mind. If we can hear what’s going on up there then we should just listen. Let’s notice our current state of mind. If we are feeling over-whelmed then we should lie down and let ourselves experience these feelings. Violence solves few problems so why put up a fight? Another favourite quote of mine is, “Don’t worry, it will pass”. Whatever we feel at any moment in time will pass, and a new emotion will come and take it’s place. 

How do I go about listening to myself and noticing my emotions? My personal routine is to chant a mantra with my eyes closed. I imagine my “safe zone” and focus on the mantra. As I do this I notice my thoughts and emotions, but give them no energy. My energy is going into focusing on the mantra. When I wake up I experience my current state of mind fully. If said state of mind is negative then I’m aware of that and am fully able to not let that have an effect on those who surround me, and most importantly, those that are close to me.

So do me a favour. We’ll do it together. Next time we’re feeling down or negative. Let’s embrace those emotions and allow ourselves to feel that way. Experience what it means to be an emotional being in full. It’s beautiful to experience all different types of emotions, and for that we can be grateful. We need to realise that we are only human and sometimes we’re just not feeling okay. Give each other understanding-we’ll be just fine.

Here’s what I listen too when I’m feeling negative. Like I said in my post about Music and Emotion-listening to a song that matches your emotion will help it pass.

Motivaiton

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What gets you up in the morning? What makes you flare up with the drive to go through your day? What flame burns within you that throttles your existence into full blast? What’s your motivation? Is it that freshly brewed pot of coffee? What about that magnificent breakfast that’s on the table? That new person that came into your life seemingly out of the blue or is it your beautiful children? Be it any of the above or something else we all have sources of motivation to be thankful for, and those of us who can’t seem to find any reason to move forward can still actively seek out motivation and role models.

The importance of being motivated is a topic that we should all look at. What is motivation? It’s when we are filled with desire to do things. Motivation is what keeps us moving forward. We’ve all seen motivational quotes via various sources. The newspapers, internet, magazines and what have you. They tend to be wise quotes that are meant to inspire and motivate us in to accomplishing our goals. The thing is though, we don’t need to solely think that our motivation can come from such sources. We can even find motivation within ourselves. Just the fact that I am healthy motivates me to get through my day and those who are worse set; their motivation can come from seeking better health. Everyone lacks motivation at some point, and that’s perfectly normal. As human beings it’s normal for us to have highs and lows and we can’t forget that. Sometimes we’re just so down that we can’t seem to find reason to accomplish anything. In most cases a lack of motivation causes this. That’s why this tool that we have, motivation, can drive us to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. We need to actively seek motivation. Those who are motivated accomplish their goals and break barriers that have been holding them back.

So when we’re at a point where we’re lacking motivation and can’t seemingly find any reason to go out and do anything what should we do? How can we fix this? We can start by acknowledging our current mental state. How? As I always say, meditation. Listen to yourself. Go somewhere quiet and listen. Are you feeling like you have no energy to do anything and just want to loaf around all day? Sit down, close your eyes, and observe your thoughts. If you come to the conclusion that you’re lacking motivation then that should be motivation enough to go out and seek new forms of motivation.

Role models are a great form of motivation. Someone that you look up too. It doesn’t have to be someone famous. A role model can be your father, mother, friend, partner or just the man who performed a selfless act of kindness in front of you today.

Being tired of anything can give you drive to find motivation so you can make changes for the better. Realising that you have the power to change will motivate you. I had enough of being unhealthy and malnourished two years ago. When I finally realised that I had the power to change that I got motivated to do something about that. Today, I’m fit as a fiddle and due to those lifestyle changes I’ve created an endless source of motivation for self-betterment. You could say, getting healthy and moving fixed my lack of motivation for good.

We are all capable of finding and using motivation to be better than we were yesterday. I encourage you to seek motivation. You can accomplish your goals. You can find reason to start that project that you’ve been thinking about for the longest. The fact that you’re here experiencing life is the best starting point.

I believe in you all. Go out and keep doing beautiful things.